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    Have you ever accidnetally tagged some one a little harder then you meant to in class. Has it ever happened to you? I personally believe it the philosphy of admitting it was my fault immediately and apologizing. How many people have that as their way of doing things as well.
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    More times on each than I care to count. In my early twenties, my eyesight started to swindle because of nasty astigmatism. My ability to judge distance, and which of the blurred image was the real deal and not the distortion, became pretty hampered. Lead to me hurting training partners, and getting hurt by them, way more than was acceptable.

    It was a good motivation to switch to grappling, where you could do more by feel. :-)
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    The guys at school pick on me for saying "I'm so sorry" too much. Now, the hugs I give them, they don't mind... but I feel so bad about my control being off. I must say it 100 times each class.

    So, yes, if I do inadvertently tag someone, I apologize asap. Just common courtesy.
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    yes i apologize when i loose control and tag someone.. i hate when i do this too..

    i dont like it when someone is always careless when it comes to control.. there is one 14 year old girl in our school that has really good power, but tends to loose control often .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rob Broad
    Have you ever accidnetally tagged some one a little harder then you meant to in class. Has it ever happened to you? I personally believe it the philosphy of admitting it was my fault immediately and apologizing. How many people have that as their way of doing things as well.
    This reminds me of 20+ years ago when we would travel to different schools to spar. The words I would always hear was "let's go light." That meant you go light and im going to knock your block off.

    A lesson I learned pretty quick.

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    All the time. My first martial arts teacher had a fighting school. That's how I was brought up. You fight, get hit hard, hit hard, everyone takes it and if there were any problems he didn't care whether you were there or not. If you didn't like to spar hard you went to train somewhere else. That's just the way it was.

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    Sure, I apologize, but I also keep my gaurd up when I do it.

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    always, again it is simply the correct thing to do. I am always harder on myself for it than the people I work with when I do make more contact than I intend.
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    I've been on both sides, basically our policy is "apologize and move on." Obviously, if someone makes a habit of hitting too hard, it will be addressed. If it's an accident, just deal with it...after all, it is a contact sport.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rob Broad
    Have you ever accidnetally tagged some one a little harder then you meant to in class. Has it ever happened to you? I personally believe it the philosphy of admitting it was my fault immediately and apologizing. How many people have that as their way of doing things as well.

    Yes I've been on both sides, and as much as I hate to be hit, it's much worse to be on the giving side than recieving side. I always fess up to it and make sure that there are no hard feelings.

    Though there has been an ocasion or two where it wasnt so accidental, but also fessed up to.
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    I once heard the bow is the premptitive apology to your training partner...

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    Quote Originally Posted by bdparsons
    I once heard the bow is the premptitive apology to your training partner...

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    I've also been told this.
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    I once broke a guys nose with a spinning hook kick and when I hesitated to ask him if he was o.k. he punched me in the mouth. So much for sympathy! LOL. "He who hesitates......"

    But yes, in class if I make more contact than intended I apologize. Self control is important but when you practice an art that sets your opponents up for follow up strikes it's inevitable that somebody's gonna get tagged.
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    I hate it when people do damage and don't apologize.

    I always feel badly when I hurt someone. Control is really important.

    I had someone clock me in the nose once and, I believe, cracked it. I know accidents happen, but her total lack of remorse or sincere apology confirmed that she'd done it on purpose. She was showing off.

    I'm much less irked about the hurt nose than I am about the fact that she wasn't sorry. Not in the least.

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    heheh, only real fight I have been in.. i defended myself and I did hurt the guy...

    even though he attacked me I still appologized to him when he was in a ball on the ground and I really did feel bad about it for a while.....


    LOL... I'm such a pasifist... how sad is that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by bdparsons
    I once heard the bow is the premptitive apology to your training partner...

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    I completely agree.
    My first kempo teacher always said we knew the reason for being in the dojo......to learn war. I trained with one of my best friends in that dojo and we sweat and bled a lot at each others hand.
    The only time I felt an apology was owed was when I didnt give him 100%.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blackcatbonz
    I completely agree.
    My first kempo teacher always said we knew the reason for being in the dojo......to learn war. I trained with one of my best friends in that dojo and we sweat and bled a lot at each others hand.
    The only time I felt an apology was owed was when I didnt give him 100%.
    Yes, but I'm a giiiirrrrrl.

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    Quote Originally Posted by amylong
    Yes, but I'm a giiiirrrrrl.

    We are nice. We try not to bleed. And we apologize. tee hee.

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    Like CC, the only time I really feel the need to apologize is when I make more contact then was intended. even then its not too big of a deal I was just brought up to apologize. When other people accidentally tag me I don't get upset if they don't apologize. It is kenpo after all...
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    If I really crank on someone I apologize, but I normally I just check to see if they are ok.
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