I think the overall "secret" is learning to use your body naturally and to it's maximum potential so you are only expending as much energy as you need to allow the technique to work instead of trying to "muscle" the technique. Even an "old" person can pull their hand off a hot stove quickly when they need to.
I think some okinwan styles had it right with their use of Sanchin kata to train not only the muscles but the connective tissues as well. Look up Shinyu Gushi on google images and you can see what an "older" man looks like that has trained through sanchin.