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    Default Another Look at Rape Prevention

    Another look at rape prevention. This topic is completely not about being ambushed near an dark alley by a stranger or anything of the sort.

    I think one thing often gets missed in rape prevention is the following statistic.... from rainn.org 2004: In 64% of reported rape cases, the victim knew the person as either an aquaintance or intimately.

    So what does this mean... well it means a whole lot... there are so many scenarious for rape it is just too hard to prepare for everything... The best we can hope to do is get the most common things and train women.

    Probably like all of you, I think learning the aggresive defense against most common rape attacks is essential, but almost always misses a key ingredient. Here I present my case:

    People tend to have a very good gut reaction when something doesn't feel right. For example, how many times has a woman been to a party either with a guy they just started dating... or even if they went alone and met someone who seemed cool. As the party goes on, he starts making some welcome advances that she encourages. THEN something doesnt feel right... he keeps trying to get her alone and although she is into him, she ABSOLUTELY does not want to be alone with him at this time OR he is starting to act weird and innappropriate.

    So then the correct method is to kick the shin, and rip out an eye right?

    There is a mental aspect of self defense happens before the physical act. A woman must be in charge of her personal space, her will, and her body at all times. And all of these things together will hopefully lower her odds of becomming a victim. In the above example... things like that happen all the time (this sounds like every party I have been to in college) and it often doesnt end in rape, sometimes the guy just needs to be told he is acting like an idiot. However, by being aware of a bad situation and making some small actions, it might help one avoid the gamble.

    You can often tell a guy who is a Type A Extreeme who is always /just grabs your arm/, and "hey let's go over here, lets go over there... do this, let's go do that." Always being somewhat forceful... this might be a really good example of a girl that needs to put her foot down while she is still in a good environment.

    By establishing that it is not ok to take her by the arm and tug her in a direction, or that it isn't ok to violate her space sends a message , "that isn't how I roll / I will stand my ground / this is 2006 and I am independent / I dont need your help / I will do what I please and nothing else."

    Confident people make bad targets. By her being in control of where she is.. AKA not allowing herself to be taken where she doesnt want to go, by staying in the public eye , by establishing what is ok behavoir and not... all of these things add up and make a difference in any environment.

    We all know how to get away from a grip that looks like an innocent motion of "hey let go",or "oh stop it", or "not cool" [break the hold, opposing the thumb]. When I teach rape prevention or womens self defense... I start here.

    - How to break from a grip in an innocent fashion (friend is being stupid,or a guy at a party grabs your arm casually)
    - How to break a grip in a less innocent fashion (friend stepping out of line ,or a guy is not so casual)
    - How to break a grip using some pain (friend putting you in a bad spot,or a guy putting you in a bad spot)
    - How to break his wrist, etc... ( DANGER DANGER - something is going to happen if you dont get away right now!)

    When in doubt... start at the bottom of the list.

    After this, I go into more tradional attacks,holds, and aggressive defense.

    I hope my meaning is relayed well here, it has been a little while since I taught it regularly
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    Default Re: Another Look at Rape Prevention

    great stuff.
    Quality outweighs quantity every time.

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    Default Re: Another Look at Rape Prevention

    Well presented information.
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    Default Re: Another Look at Rape Prevention

    Great information...
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    Default Re: Another Look at Rape Prevention

    Lee the after reading the information you have posted in this thread, I am suggesting you and Mr. Lambert put together a video on this the material you have presented. It would be a great suppliment to any school curriculum whether they are Kenpo based or not.
    Quality outweighs quantity every time.

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    Default Re: Another Look at Rape Prevention

    Quote Originally Posted by Rob Broad View Post
    Lee the after reading the information you have posted in this thread, I am suggesting you and Mr. Lambert put together a video on this the material you have presented. It would be a great suppliment to any school curriculum whether they are Kenpo based or not.


    Not a bad idea, thanks for the suggestion!
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